正心,修身,齐家,治国,平天。

February 15, 2011

正心,修身,齐家,治国,平天。

 

The wisdom of leadership in a few Chinese characters.

Some much wisdom, and all encompassing.

The right heart, an able body, a harmonious family, govern the nation, bringing balance to the world.

There is no hard and fast rule to be successful, it takes steps.


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Not all battles are glamorous

February 13, 2011

“Know that even without public affirmation, appreciation or applause, every battle  fought for God and is won in Jesus Name is a sound victory.”

I was sitting on a couch in the middle of a very messy house, thinking about my messy life, when G spoke to me with the words above.

Where there are no exams to mug for.

Where there are no job interviews to ace.

Where there are not corporate ladder to climb.

Where there are no schools to win.

Where there are no parents to count on.

I thought there is no battle to fight, there is no chance of a victory.

There are seasons, where God calls Christian leaders to take a back seat, so that we can become more Christian than leader, so that we can grow. Beyond the “glam” of the public ministry, there are battles that are not so “glamorous”, the deep personal battles. The battles that are beyond intellectual strategies but purely test of character.

God brought me, to the battles within my heart, the battles that are within my family.

Not all battles are glamorous, but I know my place in God and the battles I ought to fight.

It’s a long fight, and I’m fighting on, for G, with G.

Any battle, big or small with varying degrees of impact, as long as fought for G, is a sound victory.


Fustration to Solution

February 2, 2011

Recently, my bunny, affectionately known as Puipui (Fat Fat), had been very angsty. She would prance around the room, shredding all kinds of paper products, snipping any wires. Nothing pacifies her, not the extra space that I have given her, the variety of food or the chew toy I have purchased for her. She would at times chase me around the room, attempting to bite/nibble/lick me. There was once I even need to hop up a chair. Did I mention she snorts at me too? I was like Hey, you don’t have to be so mean.

And so, I thought she hates me.

I came very close to giving up on her because I don’t think I deserve such treatment when I spend almost 50 bucks on her monthly maintenance and cleaning up her poo and pee. But me, being me, does not give up on living things that easily. Hahs. A search on the internet had me realized, my rabbit is suffering from “Sexual Frustration”

All the bites and nibbles are just expression of frustration. And so she don’t hate me

My solution?

Get her to be sprayed. I am sorry to deprive my bunny of her sexual pleasures. But I am not ready for a bunny family, so she has to embrace singlehood with me 🙂

Lesson that I learnt?

Don’t take circumstances personally, don’t take yourself so seriously.

Beneath each frustration, lies the root of the problem, where solution waits, tapping it’s feet.

Don’t just dwell in frustration, work out a solution 🙂

To my utter horror, she slurped a rubber band recently. I was really horrified, the last thing I want is a dead bunny choked on rubber band. Well, she survived the rubber band, and is still aggressive and pyscho. Hence I shall practice the advice from House Rabbit Society,

“One of the key lessons that House Rabbit Society members have learned is that affection works wonders on psycho bunnies. Try acting like he’s the greatest thing that ever happened in your life, despite the bandages on your hand and the boots on your feet. Give him a big hello when you see him. Greet his every act of aggression with good humor too. When he charges your arm, say “why hello, you little pumpkin!” while calmly removing your arm from his reach. If he growls and thumps, say, “yes, you’re a BIG rabbit –I love that about you!” If he streaks across the room with murder in his eyes, simply say, “hey buddy, are you coming to see me?””


Mentoring

January 30, 2011

What makes mentoring beautiful  is that it’s deeply personal.

An one on one exchange.

Mentors, let’s not bore our disciples with things they already know.

Insights are merely common sense, the tip of the iceberg in mentoring.

The real deal, are the stories that we share.

Our disciples can’t move, till we make the first move.

 

 


Packing

January 1, 2011

I waked and packed. The stacks of stuff that accumulated over the festive weekends.

My room has been an organized chaos, one I often thought poignantly reflects my life, really.

My room, mirrors my life.

For the record, I don’t own it, I kinda share with my bro, but with me having a greater control over it, yet not quite enough for him to not mess up.

For the longest, I had been having a perpetual frustration to pack the room, some days I scribbled notes on the notepads, various way to pack the different things.

Didn’t quite work. Perhaps to an extent, it looks relatively neat, but really there is still quite abit of mess.

I never seem to quite make up my mind, what to keep, what to throw, and how to place the things.

And so I woke up today, with this great urge to pack. I packed all Christmas cards into a brown paper bag, and labeled it “Christmas 2010”. I want life to be organized, including my cards. And I packed somemore, folding paper bags, plastic bags putting them together. Sorting out that various stacks of paper and bills.

I realize one reason why I had not been successful in packing, is really coz I don’t know how, and that perfectionist in me just hate it to screw up. And so I wasted time, devising ways to go about. But perfection never comes, it never will. What I learn is that with time we learn, what are the things that we need and the things that we don’t. And heck these are just things, if I don’t need I can just throw, there is not need to develop any form of attachment towards these non livings things.

I’m glad I start somewhere, I’m doing something. Bit by bit, one day, I will see this room, the way I really want it.

I don’t have full control to what goes on in life, sometimes I mess it up, sometimes people mess it up, still I have every power to clear it up.

2011 gonna rock, I am packing 🙂


Opportunist

December 19, 2010

“Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” Ephesians 5:15-17

 

The work is massive.

Labor in prayer, so that our hearts and spirit are aligned.

Go out in faith, and mingle with the lost.

Because every moment count, invest our time well.

I want to be sensitive to the Spirit’s leading at all times, knowing that any slight deviation might lead to a long detour.

 

 


Life skills to the younger one

November 26, 2010

A conversation I had with my brother as we were walking home today. My mum had asked  me to pack 2 packets of coffee and bring them home.

Bro: How would you feel if mummy say your coffee is not nice,though you took such a long time to make them.

Me: I will be ok with it, coz after all I learn to accept that there are some things I can do well in and there are some things I don’t do as well. And this could be something that I don’t do well in. That doesn’t mean I suck or anything,

Subconciously, I imparted to him a lesson to not take ourselves too seriously.

Later in the day, my cousin shared with me the story of the crocodile and rabbit.

One day a crocodile was biting a rabbit. Someone  had compassion on the rabbit and rescue it from the crocodile. But by saving the rabbit from the crocodile, you killed the crocodile.

You could be the crocodile.

That story, wrecks me up.


If we learn to swim, we won’t drown

November 24, 2010

If we learn to swim, we won’t drown.

Surely, there would be the occasional muscles cramp that caught us by surprise, so painfully gripped us rendering us helpless.

But that’s when, we realize it’s good to not swim alone, at least swim in a place where there is a lifeguard.

 

We are not made to struggle alone.

Be equipped to deal with your struggle.

Never do it alone.

You would prolly drown.

 


What to compartmentalize

November 14, 2010

Revisiting compartmentalize. Something I posted on the 28th March 2009 which I want to remind myself again.

“We can compartmentalize our emotions to be rational.

But,

We should should not compartmentalize God to rationalize.

“For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. 13Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.”Hebrews 4:11-13

Right and Wrong is like black and white.

Grey areas happen when we mix the two together.

If we were to seek deep into our hearts, there is always a right and wrong . The question is, how much of our carnal nature versus God’s Holiness.”

And once again I like to say amen.


Lessons from 7 year olds

October 21, 2010

Recently I get to teach a couple of 7 year old kids.

A common trait that I realized is that, whenever they encounter a question that they don’t know how to do, they tend to

1. Dream, drift off

2. Talk alot, distracted

It’s conflict avoidance at it’s simplest and purest.

Never, had they asked for help, till i prompt, “you need help?” Then reluctantly, they will say, yes.

Thereafter when they figure it out, they will break into a smile and you see them focus and on task.

 

I begin to ponder, what is my take on the questions that I don’t know how to solve.